If this is what they're thinking...
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I Got Bored:
Attention span : "Continuous attention span, or the amount of time a human can focus on an object without any lapse at all, is very brief and may be as short as 8 seconds. After this amount of time, it is likely that an individual's eyes will shift focus, or that a stray thought will briefly enter consciousness."
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A relationship is not supposed to be exciting all the time, so getting through those flatline moments between the sparks is critical. If you start having more fun with other activities, the relationship is doomed.
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One of Us Was Too Serious:
This could be as simple as he/she wanted to see me three times a week, and you only wanted to see him/her once a week. If he/she's flirting with other guys/girls, or not as into it as you are, then you're too serious for her.
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Burnout:
Pacing and rhythm in dating is important. A relationship can suffer burnout if certain milestones occur too fast: Being exclusive, sex, meeting parents. When that happens, you're thinking, "Ok, we did it...so now what?"
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I Was Tempted To Cheat:
I do my best not to cheat, so when I have recurring urges to cheat on my girlfriend, I figure it's time to break up with her. I don't need to go through with cheating; the constant urge is enough for me to end things.
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All My Friends Broke Up:
This is by far the most immature reason on this list. While everyone is out, partying and tearing up the town, you're stuck at your family dinners and indoors watching movies. That conflict gives a wanderlust. It's much easier when all your friends are in for a quiet Saturday night with the significant others.
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Divergent Lives:
If someone moves to another town, or work is taking over, or other life changes are driving you apart, sometimes it's best to end it.
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Feeling Selfish:
Dating is selfless because you're giving your time and yourself up to a relationship. "Me time" is necessary at some point to work on career/living situation, travel, or whatever. When you're in a "selfish period," it's tough to participate in a relationship.
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I "Misread" My Feelings:
This is the most unfair of all the reasons. Both genders make this mistake—you get into a relationship and everything seems so great. Then, a few weeks later, you realize you got wrapped up in something for the wrong reason, dated for the sake of dating, or whatever, and you need to get out.
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My Friends Or Family Didn't Like Him/Her:
Pay close attention to friend/family opinions because they know you best, and they've earned the right to have their say. Also, friends and family may be able to see things inside the relationship that you're too blinded to see.
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I Took Him/Her For Granted:
Great relationships should be easy, but there has to be some tension too—especially in the beginning. If it's too easy, there's a lack of challenge. If you feel like you could have his/her heart any time any place, sometimes you'll let him/her go. Eventually you'll grow distant with each other.
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He/She Was Too Negative:
If you end up with the brooding, depressed, uptight type who is constantly complaining. No one is happy all the time, but if he/she makes me unhappy every time you see him/her, why stay?
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