Rules just makes life c0mpLicAteED

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Author's note:
Sensitive issue. I am not bad mouthing anyone or anything.
Please do not jump to conclusions without clarifying me.
Please keep an open mind and try being in my shoes when reading this post.
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People in Brunei always think that when a parent request his son/daughter to break up with their Malay girlfriend/boyfriend, people associate it with racism.
On the contrary, it has nothing at all to do with race(okay, maybe a li'll) But the main issue is religion.
I'm not saying that being Muslim is bad. Its just that for a person who is a free-thinker, Christian, Buddhist or watever to convert into an inescapable religion is a really huge transition.
When you've been living with it all your life, of course its no big deal.
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For me, I'm a Chinese. Free-thinker but Christian upbringing and currently dating a Mulim Malay.
I know that there are so many people depised or maybe even angered behind my back for being with him and very few have come up to me saying that they have a problem with it.
You people think that I don't care what my possible future with him would be like??
I know that I have to give up PORK and DOGS and problem with eating food that is non-halal.
Having to wear a tudung for the rest of my life depending on the husband.
No more alcoholic drinks.
Not only that, there's Chinese New Year, Mooncake Festival, Dumpling Festival and so much more that I'm gonna miss out on in the future.
I would also most likely be left out at a lot of reunions and parties because they'll think its such a bother to invite me cause of the 'rules and regulations'.
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However, a friend told me that a person who converts to Muslim is given like a one year trial of some sort.
And if you can't take it then within that year you can get out.
But here's the problem...
Let's say in the future, I do get married with him and I still love him. But I can't handle the religion. So in order to get out, we need to divorce. Life's just way too complicated.
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So if given the circumstances. I can't stay in Brunei.
So much for living life to its fullest.
Life's too short. Giving up on things in life is just too hard.